An incident with my sweetheart a few months ago has turned into my latest social dating experiment. I’ve been sneaking it into conversations and found that almost every woman I’ve talked to verifies that they’ve have similar experiences constantly. It’s late at night & the TV is blasting, there is a half drank melted strawberry shake on the shelf and snores are coming from the bed. Although it appears as though I'm the only one awake in the house, the second I touch that remote I am inevitably going to be experiencing what millions of women all over the world have experienced.... Men's greatest lie in bed.

Well a lot has happened since the last time I wrote. Most notably, I’ve started dating someone who is apparently OK with the fact that I blog about my dating life… even after knowing I have mostly written about dating the “Wrong Men”. Talk about having balls! What can I say? After years of “wrong men” experiences, I knew when the Right thing came along. Of course, when I started dating him, several people were bummed saying “Oh no, does that mean we don’t get any more ‘Wrong Men’ blogs?” …My answer, I will not be maintaining my emotionally draining lifestyle for your reading pleasure. But I assure you, I have years more of horrific stories from my past I have yet to write… NOT TO WORRY! Now, I figure I can add the crazy stories from my changed relationship status in addition. To make it up for the fact that I won’t be having that many new “Wrong Men” experiences, I’ll tell you how myself & the new guy could give you a chance to win prizes, including a new car.

The other day I was sitting with a guy that I’ve gone out with a few times and the topic came up of my latest blog.  I was telling him about the irony of me getting several “You’re Hot” emails only hours after writing a blog stating that behavior like this was an absolute turn off to most women.   I explained how I had surveyed several of my girl friends to get a good idea of what actually does work when men pick them up in public.  He quickly jumped in “Wait! Let me guess what they said!” and proceeded to tell me what I will tell you now… & then there was a quick flashback to the reality of the night he & I met.

If you are one of my Twitter followers, than you already know that I am notorious for getting the worst pickup lines on the planet.  Little do the culprits of these lines know I will most likely internally combust laughing, excuse myself & then Tweet the phrase used out to my followers…. A few of my favorites: “You’re so cute, you look like a baby” (last weekend) “Your name is Francis right?” “Do you play the trumpet?” (this backfires because I did actually play it for years) the wasted response is supposed to be “Because you’re making me horny” “I’m doing a research paper on the fact that the most beautiful women in the room will not get hit on as much as other women… you haven’t been hit on much tonight have you” & my all time favorite “You’re beautiful… you should be in porn” (to which my girlfriend & I still say the phrase “You had me at Porn) In any case, there is a wrong way & a right way to approach a woman in public.  As part of my 4 Blog Series on the “How To’s in the World of Amazing Women”, I will give the answers of the worst & best approaches to do so based on the results of a quiz I where I asked several of my amazing friends for their honest answers:

Wrong Man Story 2006I’m not sure if it’s everyone’s tendency, or just my own dysfunctional “wrong men” habits, but there have been several times in my dating career where I’ve been devastated by heart break & looked to a past wrong man to ease the pain.  Some of my girlfriends used to say the phrase “Good Ol’ Marine” because he had the tendency of popping into my life with his words of praise right as something would go down.  When the man I’ve loved the most walked out of my life within 10 minutes of telling him I loved him… Go figure I was devastated.    After that blow, I took Marine up on his offer to visit him where he was stationed.  Little did I know, our get together wasn’t going to resemble a visit, as much as his opportunity to display his winnings.

I tend to make mental notes of commonalities I see in life to later create my own hypothesis on how our society works. Through the years, & having turned 30 so many times, I consider myself a professional & have noticed one consistent reoccurrence… the major differences in the mental process of a woman entering their 30’s in comparison to a man.

Wrong Men Story: Current Perhaps you’ve noticed that I haven’t written for several months.  This has been due to a recent “wrong man” experience where I the guy demanded that I never write about the situation because it would “ruin his reputation”.  I’m not sure why anyone would enter into a dating situation with anyone, let alone someone who blogs about dating wrong men, then proceed to behave like one of them.  In any case, out of respect(?), one chapter of my “wrong men” series of blogs will be left out.  Of course, the situation has left me with one major problem… writers block.

A girlfriend of mine called me after her boyfriend ignored her in public in order to talk to a stripper saying how hurt she was. My friend is undoubtedly one of the most gorgeous girls you will meet who's also got a great head on her shoulders.  Most guys (if given a chance with her) would probably see her coming & jump on the opportunity to proclaim their relationship to a 3 mile radius.  So she asked the question... "Should I say something about how it hurt me?" in fear that he'll get mad, or break up with her. Seeing the unloving 25 year relationship of my parents where nothing was communicated other than maybe what was for dinner… ending in divorce... I say Silence can be one of the biggest killers of a relationship.

Perhaps you’ve noticed that my biggest reoccurring “wrong man” story is with men who can’t seem to live their life attached to only one woman.   Many people ask me “How could someone do that to you?  You’re so nice / You do so much for them / You’re an amazing person”  I finally came up with an analogy to explain what happens when a man, or woman, keeps too many extracurricular people on their line making it impossible to see any value, or make any real attempt with just one person.

I received a message from a guy saying "you have a lot of blogs talking about cheaters, etc... How WOULD a guy attempt to court / date a quality woman like yourself?" I realized I can't speak on behalf of all fabulous women everywhere and being insanely market research driven in everything I do, I put together a survey and forced some of the most amazing women I know to take it.  They are all intelligent, know what they want in life and a relationship, established in their careers, considered above average in appearance, and have proven to me to have long standing high ethical standards.  I’ll write 4 blogs answering the questions I asked them: "What works/doesn't work when you meet a guy online?""What works/doesn't work when meeting a guy in public?"“What are you looking for in a man?”"What are the 7 most important things to keep you/loose you in a relationship?" I woke up this morning to an email in my Facebook account from an unfamiliar name, no mutual friends and the only photo was the default Facebook profile picture.  When reading the email I found it was a request to hang out, provided a phone number then a statement that I need to get a hold of him TODAY!... Well Hell!! Let me grab my phone!!! Because first off, I have no problem letting some unidentifiable man store my phone number.  While we're at it, why don't I plan on meeting you down a dark alley where I'll be waiting for you blindfolded with an array of torture devices laid out for your convenience!Obviously with this message I felt it was time to write the blog about How to Meet a Quality Woman Online.